Friday, April 16, 2010

Gitter done...

Here's everything you ever wanted to know (or not!) about spring cleaning. Yeah, it feels soooo good when you're done, but just looking at the checklists these pros suggest makes me exhausted.

Honestly, does anyone have the time to clean all this stuff, in all these places? Ever?

Spring cleaning for the more motivated among us


Blogger Jefferson's Guardian said...

"Honestly, does anyone have the time to clean all this stuff, in all these places? Ever?"


I view this as just more psychologically controlling veneer; something to create even more guilt (like women don't harbor enough in this pathological, patriarchal, culture we live in). What this article emphasizes is overkill. An adequately clean kitchen doesn't require that you take two weeks of vacation time in order to sterilize it. Why strive to meet clean-room specifications (as required for chip manufacturing, for example), when a little soap-and-water will do the trick -- in a fraction of the time?

2:55 PM  
Blogger Anna Van Z said...

How true! We're always made to feel that we fall short of the "clean" residence - unless we're steaming, sterilizing, scrubbing, mopping, washing, and dusting continuously. I always feel bad, and usually embarrassed to have people drop by, because I think that they're inwardly judging me for not having a perfectly tidy house or floors that (badly) need mopping.
So I fantasize that I'm going to learn how to become more efficient and regimented, so I can somehow fit domestic perfection into my repertoire.
But with one and a half full-time jobs, the time and energy only goes so far. Just like the money.

4:51 PM  
Blogger Jefferson's Guardian said...

Well stop feeling so badly about it. Take that noose off from around your neck and breathe more deeply.

Personally, I'm a lot more tuned-in to what's in a person's mind and heart, than whether their floors are spick-and-span.

Which begs the question: Do you think men, in the dark recesses of their minds, are really just interested in dating prospective maids, or are they truly searching for their life partner?

5:30 AM  
Blogger Anna Van Z said...

Based on what I've seen, and the men I've known in previous years, the average man marries for convenience and ease. And to procreate. It is not the pinnacle of their lives, nor is their wedding day "a day they've dreamed about since they were little boys" (which of course is what the media is constantly telling women is true for them).
They continue with their lives and jobs unhampered, secure in the knowledge that someone is taking care of things on the homefront. Even if that someone on the homefront also has a job. All the tiresome daily living details and social planning or obligations are now handled by "the wife". Someone else buys their underwear and makes sure their shirts are pressed and suits are drycleaned. Someone else takes the baby to the doctor and screens daycare providers.
In this, many men remain like emotional adolescents, which is their comfort zone; and in fact psychologically they've married a mommy.
They come home from work and flop in front of the game or with the Nontendo - they don't care if the kitchen floor needs mopping. God knows they're not going to come home and do it!
And in five years neither of them has any intellectual or sexual interest in each other, and it seems to be a big mystery to them why that would be.
Their wives are perpetually pissed off and exhausted, and couldn't care less about having sex. It's just another tedious obligation at the end of a very long day.
Some of these men end up to be among the millions of married men trolling for sex online or in bars, which is certainly easier than examining one's own marriage and taking action to change it, or to finally get out.
Much easier to stay in the safe home coccoon with mommy - after all, there's the kids, the property, and the cost of splitting all that up into two households. And the thought of having to be on one's own after all that time is actually a little terrifying to these guys, although they'd never admit it.
I doubt most men are up to the challenge of finding and keeping a soulmate or a true life partner.
But having said all that, I do know that there are some wonderfully atypical men out there who truly want and seek a soulmate.
Even if it takes a long time to find that person.

11:10 AM  

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